{"id":63397,"date":"2018-10-08T14:38:55","date_gmt":"2018-10-08T14:38:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/death-abs-smoothies\/?p=63397"},"modified":"2020-06-09T07:52:17","modified_gmt":"2020-06-09T07:52:17","slug":"our-daily-costume-we-use-to-cope","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.wellvyl.com\/media\/our-daily-costume-we-use-to-cope\/","title":{"rendered":"OUR DAILY COSTUME WE USE TO COPE"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was getting off the train earlier this week and saw The Riddler carrying a sleeping Robin towards the LIRR. \u00a0It took me a moment to register\u2026 ComiCon. One of the weeks in NYC where it\u2019s not strange to see a plethora of superheroes and magical creatures getting making transfers and walking the streets. <\/span><\/p>\n

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One of the best things about events like Comic-Con and other fun events like Halloween is that we get to dress up. \u00a0Costumes give us the freedom to put on a mask, they allow us to become someone or something else. We can be the sexy vixen, mad scientist or funny pun, the expression of who we are is endless. <\/span><\/p>\n

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When it comes to expressing ourselves in real life, what costumes do we find ourselves putting on? \u00a0A famous term is \u201cfake it till you make it\u201d. This term has always allowed me to mentally put on a costume to preserve ourselves as we adjust to a life change. \u00a0While this can be a good form of self-preservation we must ask ourselves what costumes we\u2019re putting on and why.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When we put on a different \u201cface\u201d for people what are we trying to enhance or potentially hide? \u00a0Are we stepping into a greater version of ourselves that we are aiming to be or potentially hiding away from something or trying to scare something away? <\/span><\/p>\n

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We are in a world where we are asked to constantly present ourselves. \u201cBuilding your brand\u201d has sadly become an opportunity for people to negatively compare to others and feel they must create a false presentation of who they are in order to be \u201cenough\u201d. This is not healthy. \u00a0When we feel we are creating a barrier between ourselves and the world we are likely beginning to put on a costume that might be preserving us from an emotion or experience we are hoping to avoid. This can be ok for a while but we have to find space to ask ourselves why we feel the need to currently put that mask on. \u00a0\u00a0When we ask ourselves this seemingly simple (but actually really complex) question we begin to open ourselves to a space that allows us to grow. <\/span><\/p>\n

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So how do we do this? \u00a0We take a step back and ask ourselves what is really going on. \u00a0One way I love to do this is through freewriting. Taking a moment collect thoughts to move forward. \u00a0Try putting 30 minutes on the clock and sit with the following questions to cultivate the courage to take the costume off. <\/span><\/p>\n

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